Habang nagbabasa ako ng inquirer, nabasa ko ang article tungkol sa pagyao ng daughter-in-law ni Mayor Jojo Binay. Mababaw ang luha, kaya aminado akong medyo nangilid ng kaunti ang aking luha, lalo na ng nabasa ko ang mga regrets ng kanyang naiwang asawa na si Councilor Jun-jun Binay (nepotism at its finest, that’s for a different posting!).
His voice cracking, he related that Ken-ken had often asked him to stay beside her but he was usually unable to.
“For one reason or another, hindi ko po laging nagawa ito. She told me ‘hon, I cannot sleep when you’re not beside me. For some reason, hindi ko rin po maipaliwanag how men can be so insensitive with the little requests that our wives or loved ones ask from us,” said a teary eyed Binay.
Siguro mas naka-relate ako dahil may asawa’t anak na din ako, at dahil sa isa sa mga pinaka-gusto kong films ay ang Click (which deals with family relationships and balancing your professional life). Napa-isip talaga ako ng husto…tama ba ang binibigay kong oras sa aking mag-ina…is there such a thing as sapat na oras? Ewan ko…Ito ang isa sa mga pinagkaiba namin ng tingin ni erpats; while he believes that a good father is a good provider…ang tingin ko naman e a good father is a good provider and the source of love for the family. Na-gets niyo? Si Papa, work work work yan, ang mahalaga para sa kanya may matinong pinagsasaluhan, matino ang buhay, at magandang kinabukasan ang mabibigay niya sa amin. Ako naman work, work, work, pero dapat may oras, not just the quantity, but also the quality, para sa pamilya mo. Hindi sapat, para sa akin, na maibigay ko ang kailangan at gusto ng pamilya ko, pero dapat kasama nila ako sa pag-harap nila sa buhay, at kasama ako sa every milestone ng buhay ko. I do not fault my father for this, dahil he was there too every step of the way for us, pero para sa akin gusto ko balanseng lang…not neglecting the material aspect, pero dapat din busog ang spiritual and emotional side. Nung tumanda na lang ako ng nagkaroon kami ng chance ng tatay to connect emotionally.
Ano ba para sa inyo ang definition ng good father?
At gusto ko din pala i-share sa inyo ito. It’s a children’s tale about love, sana mai-relate niyo sa buhay niyo.
GUESS HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU
by Sam McBratney
Little Nutbrown Hare, who was going to bed, held on tight to Big Nutbrown Hare’s very long ears. He wanted to be sure that
Big Nutbrown Hare was listening.
“Guess how much I love you,” he said.
“Oh, I don’t think I could guess that,” said Big Nutbrown Hare.
“This much,” said Little Nutbrown Hare, stretching out his arms as wide as they could go.
Big Nutbrown Hare had even longer arms.
“But I love you this much,” he said.
Hmm, that is a lot, thought Little Nutbrown Hare.
“I love you as high as I can reach,” said Little Nutbrown Hare.
“I love you as high as I can reach,” said Big Nutbrown Hare.
That is very high, thought Little Nutbrown Hare.
I wish I had arms like that.
Then Little Nutbrown Hare had a good idea.He tumbled upside down and reached up the tree trunk with his feet.
“I love you all the way to my toe!” he said.
“And I love you all that way up to your toes,” said Big Nutbrown Hare,
swinging him up over his head.
“I love you as high as I can hop!” laughed Little Nutbrown Hare,
bouncing up and down.
“But I love you as high as I can hop,” smiled Big Nutbrown Hare-
and he hopped so high that his ears touched the branches above.
That’s good hopping, thought Little Nutbrown Hare.
I wish I could hop like that.
“I love you all the way down the lane as far as the river,” cried Little Nutbrown Hare.
“I love you across the river and over the hills,” said Big Nutbrown Hare.
That’s very far, thought Little Nutbrown Hare. He was almost too sleepy to think anymore. Then he looked beyond the thornbushes,
out into the big dark night. Nothing could be farther than the sky.
“I love you right up to the moon,” he said, and closed his eyes.
“Oh, that’s far,” said Big Nutbrown Hare.
“That is very, very far.”
Big Nutbrown Hare settled Little Nutbrown Hare into his bed of leaves.
He leaned over and kissed him good night. Then he lay down close by
and whispered with a smile,
“I love you right up to the moon-and back.”